“Some years ago, my husband had a drunken one night fling with my sister shortly after
our father died,” she writes.
“My sister told my mother that my husband forced her, but later admitted she had been a willing participant but wanted to “save face”. This came out the week before my mother died, so the funeral was very fraught with one half of my family believing my sister’s original version and the other believing my husband.
“I forgave my husband almost immediately as I was terrified the children would hear the story and he would be ruined in their eyes. They love him dearly, as do I, but I now find myself reliving the incident over and over in my mind. I now feel it was all too easy for him.”
The letter writer continues that she has “so much pent up anger” that it is affecting her relationship with her husband. More recently, she has found texts that were “a bit racy” to another woman, but when she confronted him, he said they had just met a few times for a drink and a chat.
“I no longer trust my husband,” she concludes. “We are more like brother and sister now, even though I long for things to be the same as before the whole mess. Is there any hope for us? Did I forgive too quickly?
Anxious Reader”
Miriam will offer her advice in the next edition of Irish Country Living, but what advice would you offer this reader?
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